Everything happens for a reason

Sometimes people come into your life to serve some sort of purpose and teach you a lesson. They might affect your life in some way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem unacceptable and unfair, but in reflection soon you will realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your strength. As I getting older I realized that the worst things in life will lead to the best things in life and everything will clear up eventually. Thank You Lord for all that's happened in my past. I'm more able to cope with depression. I think I'm a better person because of pain makes me stronger, tears make me braver, and heartbreak makes me wiser =,]

RELATIONSHIP takes effort

Saw this on Facebook ↓

Every relationship gets boring and it will get boring after you've been together for years. It's always fun in the beginning. It's always exciting when you're getting to know each other. It's always thrilling to chase one another. Eventually, it gets hard. Eventually, it becomes difficult. Eventually, it drains you. That's when people tend to quit and go look for someone else because "the spark is gone" and they want to feel wanted and admired and loved again. But listen, that's not how it's supposed to be. No, that's not how it works. It doesn't have to be that way. Even when it does get boring, that's when you're supposed to remember why you're with that person in the first place and it's never too late to find that happiness that you both once found together because the truth is, it's always been there and it never left. Even when it feels like feelings are fading, that's when you're supposed to know how much this person means to you and what losing them would be like because being able to love someone even when they're being hard to love shows that your feelings never left. Even when it feels like you're done, that's when you're supposed to realize that no matter who you're with, it's always going to get "boring" so you might as well be with someone who's willing to love you unconditionally and never give up on you. - Teddy Nguyen

Indeed, relationship is all about ↑ ups and ↓ downs and it's a matter of choice. Whenever I feel like "the spark is gone", I will do everything to keep the ''fire burning''. Undeniable I will get bored sometimes but there are other things to consider before the love fades. Everyone will eventually get bored at the end if they stop making the effort. It's ALL ABOUT EFFORT! think about it! Not putting enough effort can kill a relationship. E.g : calling you to see how you're doing, trying to work thru problems and communicate clearly instead of just giving up/running away, bringing you food after a long day at work, planning dates and outings, occasionally doing things without being specifically asked...etc. Remember, effort is a HUGE part in making a relationship work. 

moral story

Once a man and his wife were taking a donkey to the market. As they were walking, some people saw them and remarked, ‘Look at these fools, why don’t they ride the donkey?’ The man heard this and asked his wife to ride the donkey while he walked alongside. A man seeing this remarked, ‘What is the world coming to? Look at that woman riding comfortably while he makes his poor husband walk!’ So the woman got down and this time the man rode the donkey. As they went along, another man passing by said, ‘Why don’t both of you get on the animal?’ So they listened to him and both rode on the animal. Yet another group who saw them said, ‘Oh! What a poor animal. It has to carry those two fat good-for-nothings! How cruel some people can be!’ By this time the man and woman were getting quite fed up. They decided to dismount and carry the donkey instead so as to stop everyone from talking. This led people to laugh and say, ‘look at these human “donkey” carrying a donkey’. 

Moral Story: We cannot please everybody

You cant please everyone. They own their thoughts, reactions, and beliefs. We cannot live being obsessed with what other people think about us. So instead of feeling stressed and frustrated, just be yourself and welcome the peace and happiness that will come your way. =)

How to be a good girlfriend?

Being a good girlfriend can be tricky, especially at the beginning of a relationship. You have to be loving and supportive while maintaining your independence. If you want to know how to do it, just read on from step one below ↓

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• Take it slow. Don't push him to call you his girlfriend after a couple of dates. Don't start talking about marriage and children before you've even met his friends. The beginning is a precious time when you both feel like you're walking on air just because you're together. Eventually this phase will pass and you'll hit bumps in the road that will test your relationship and during those times you'll both look back to the memories from the beginning to remember why you're in it. So don't bring up any issues prematurely and make the beginning of your relationship stressful. Let it take its natural course. Cherish your time together, it's the only time this person will be new to you. That doesn't mean you should be an obsessive girlfriend and crave every second of his time. Relax. Be patient. Enjoy.

• Be honest. While being honest to your guy is very important, to the point of being paramount, it is equally important that you are honest with yourself. If you overreact or make a mistake, you can acknowledge your error and apologize. If you're feeling vulnerable or upset, you can sort through your feelings and verbalize them to him in a non-accusing way. And the most important thing here is that you will open your feelings as much as possible. For example, if someone crushes you, tell him immediately for you two not to have problems as much as possible. 

• Have a positive attitude. If everything you say around him is a criticism or an attack, he will not look forward to seeing you. However, you don't always have to agree with him just because he is your boyfriend. Tactfulness is a better strategy in mature relationships. No matter what, have a good sense of humor. Have inside jokes together. Be spontaneous. Be happy.

• Make your desires, needs, and opinions known, even when they may conflict with his. You don't and shouldn't exist solely to please him. Besides, showing that you are your own person with your own needs, desires, and approach to life will keep him interested in getting to know and understand you as a person. Just remember to express yourself in way that doesn't attack anyone else's opinion or lifestyle in any way--you can be humble and outspoken at the same time. 

• Let him live his life. If you feel entitled to all of his time and attention, learn how to not be an obsessive girlfriend. Don't be an "over protective girlfriend" let him go out without him feeling watched. Remember that he doesn't need you for everything and that you are separate people as well as a couple. When he needs some space, don't take it personally. But do make sure he knows that you are always there for him.

• Give him gifts. When you're in a relationship it's fun to give each other small gifts. Boys love to get presents and giving him one shows that he means a lot to you. Don't overdo it though. You don't want him to think you're crazy.

• Be yourself Don't lie to impress him, don't try to make him jealous, don't lead him on if you're not into everything. These things are wrong, and if you feel the need to do that then you don't know the meaning of a true relationship. Be honest and open with him. If the two of you are mature then you will handle it correctly.

What doesn‘t kill you makes you stronger

Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. Strength comes from overcoming the things you'd thought you couldn't. Without struggle, there is no progress. =)

Dude that's messed up!

You're supposed to have a commitment with that person! Cheating in a relationship is wrong because if you are truly in love with someone then you shouldn't need to have multiple partners to satisfy you in the first place. If you can't commit, then why bother cheating? STAY SINGLE. #Ispeakthetruth

self reminder quotes

No point thinking about someone who doesn’t give a shit about you anymore. Remember, you can’t reach what’s in front of you until you let go of what’s behind you. Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. You’re not the same person you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. THAT'S LIFE!

始作俑者

没有表情一个人坐着 

等着一个安慰的理由 

但你没有…… 

她不是始作俑者却习得你罪恶的问候 

用沉默代替解脱于是在你的话语 

用微笑告别以后这一刻后彼此要擦身而过 

抛下一切让你走就这样不在留我 

想起你电话来时的表情 

想起从前爱你的声音 

想起总是微微笑的你 

想起从前爱你的调皮 

想起如果没有遇见你 

想起从前爱你的甜言蜜语 

面对着自己背对离去的你我已失去 

面对着自己背对离去的你选择放弃 

多年后时间不在静走 

你我的以后也不在拼凑 

爱情始作俑者不是谁 

没有谁在乎谁不在 害怕 面对

Oh well

If I really like you, I'll be sarcastic and tease you relentlessly. 

If I DON'T like you, I'll be very polite and pleasant.